“There is no one way to be non-binary, and that’s truthfully one of the best things about it. It’s an identity that is yours to shape.”

Combining light-hearted anecdotes with their own hard-won wisdom, Jamie Windust explores everything from fashion, dating, relationships and family, through to mental health, work and future key debates. From trying on clothes in secret to iconic looks, first dates to polyamorous liaisons, passports to pronouns, Jamie shows you how to navigate the world and your evolving identity in every type of situation.

Frank, funny, and brilliantly feisty, this must-read book is a call to arms for non-binary self-acceptance, self-appreciation and self-celebration.

Jamie Windust is an award-winning non-binary writer, public speaker and model from London. They are Contributing Editor at Gay Times, and have written for The Independent, British GQ, Cosmopolitan and INTO More, and were named as one of London’s most influential people, in the story telling category, by the Evening Standard. IN THEIR SHOES is their first book, and was published in 2020 by Jessica Kingsley Publishers.

Exploring how the essentialism of the gender binary impacts on clients of all genders, this ground-breaking book examines how historical, social and culturally gendered trauma emerges in clinical settings. Weaving together systemic ideas, autoethnography, narrative therapy and somatic experiencing, the book charts the history of the gender binary and its roots in colonialism, as well as the way this culture is perpetuated intergenerationally, and the impact this trauma has on all bodies, gender identities and experiences.

Featuring clinical vignettes, exercises and reflexive practices, this is an accessible and intersectional guide for professionals to develop their understanding of gender-derived trauma for supporting clients. Highlighting the importance of applying a trauma-informed approach in practice, this book provides insights as to how we can work towards collective healing, for future generations and for ourselves.

Dr. Alex Iantaffi is the co-author with Meg-John Barker of How To Understand Your Gender and Life Isn’t Binary, both published by Jessica Kingsley Publishers. They have researched and published extensively on gender, disability, sexuality, and relationship issues. Alex also works as a therapist and supervisor at their own clinical group practice, Edges Wellness Center LLC, on Dakota and Anishinaabe territories, currently known as Minneapolis, MN (US). They are passionate about healing justice and writing as a form of personal and collective healing. Alex is also the host of the podcast Gender Stories.